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7 ting, du IKKE skal sige til en nybagt mor

Det meste indhold her på mestforgravide er originalt og vores eget – men af og til falder vi over noget, der fortjener at blive delt som det er. Læs med her, hvis du vil videresende din familie og venner en liste over ting, de IKKE skal sige til en nybagt mor:

Blog of the Week: Things not to say to a new mum
The Netmums Blog

Our Blog of the Week this week comes from the very talented team at The Motherhood. Written by Alison Perry we are told all the things we shouldn’t say to a new mum – but we’re guessing you’ve probably heard quite a few of these yourself!

Know a new mum? Tread carefully. She’s probably a fragile thing, dealing with lack of sleep, hormones and a large serving of what-the-heck-is-going on. It’s REALLY EASY to say the wrong thing to a new mum, without even meaning to. One minute, you’re having a lovely chat over a cuppa as she introduces you to her new bundle of joy, the next she’s crying snotty tears and making excuses for you to leave. No one wants to be that friend, so do your homework first and avoid saying the following:

1. OH YOUR BABY IS SO SMALL!

What new mum will hear: Ooh your baby might be a bit too small. Are you feedingnewborn baby toesyour baby properly? Is your baby putting on enough weight? Are you looking after your baby properly?

A new baby putting on weight is a huge deal to a mum – there’s even a graph in every baby’s red NHS book that health visitors plot at every weigh-in so that mums can know exactly how badly well they’re doing. You hear mums saying things like, “He’s on the 60th percentile which is amazing because he was only on the 20th percentile when he was a week old.” This will mean nothing to non parents, but it’s a huge deal to new mums.

2. SO… HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN *JUDGEY PAUSE* BOTTLE FEEDING?

What new mum will hear: You’re BOTTLE FEEDING YOUR BABY? Are you mad? You do realise that formula milk is basically poison and you’re a bad mum for giving it to your child?

Even if you’re quietly impressed that your friend has managed to get her baby to take a bottle, commenting on it will only tap into her deepest fears – that it’s the wrong thing to do. Even though it’s clearly fine and very often the best thing a mum can do for her baby. Yeah, you heard me, I said it. (Disclaimer: I believe every mum should do what’s right for them when it comes to feeding their baby.)

3. SO… HOW LONG ARE YOU PLANNING ON *AWKWARD PAUSE… WAVES IN THE DIRECTION OF YOUR BOSOM* BREASTFEEDING?

What new mum will hear: It’s a bit weird, that breastfeeding. And do you have to keep getting your boobs out when I’m around? It makes me feel a bit uncomfortable and I don’t know where to look.

I actually had someone say this to me, when my baby was around four months old. It made me smile, because it was so at-odds with the usual pro-breastfeeding/anti-formula message I was so used to hearing.

4. WHAT’S THAT YELLOW TINGE TO THE BABY’S SKIN?

What new mum will hear: Your newborn is sick and needs to go back to hospital. Call the post-natal ward now!

FYI it’s jaundice and 60% of new babies have it in their first week because of a build-up of bilirubin in the blood. But commenting on the appearance of a new baby (apart from saying “She’s beautiful!”) is always a bad idea, because new mums are still in panic-mode. Is the baby too hot? Too cold? Is that jaundice  or is it just the yellow light in this room? Should he have this much dry skin? Should her poo be that colour?

5. OH, SO LONG AS YOU DON’T BECOME ONE OF THOSE MUMS, POSTING ENDLESS PHOTOS OF YOUR BABY ON FACEBOOK!

What new mum will hear: No one wants to see 100 photos of your baby. We’re all out having fun, downing shots on a Saturday night before having a reeeaaally long lie-in the next morning. That’s the kind of stuff we want to see on Facebook. Not babies. And NOT moany status updates about lack of sleep and night feeds.

The thing is, even if a new mum doesn’t want to become one of those mums, she probably will. I fought it for so long, determined not to become a baby bore on Facebook, and then I thought ‘Do you know what? My baby rocks and she is the biggest thing in my life and I’m OK with that.’

6. YOU LOOK AMAZING! I BET YOU’RE BACK INTO YOUR newborn and mumPRE-PREGNANCY JEANS AGAIN?

What new mum will hear: You look fat. Your belly is all wobbly. Your body will never be the same again. Ever.

Another just-don’t-go-there topic. New mums feel crap about their body. Even if she’s managed to get herself into a trendy top and skinny jeans when you see her, she’s probably just focused on the jelly-like rolls of skin underneath it all, and her hard leaky boobs which are threatening to spurt all over her top, in a truly embarrassing fashion.

7. ENJOY EVERY SECOND OF IT – THEY GROW UP SO FAST.baby_in_reusable_nappy_original

What new mum will hear: You’re not allowed to find this hard. Don’t even think about complaining about how tired you are. You have to cherish every-single-second. Or else you’re a bad mum.

Some mums do cherish every second, of course, but most of us find it exhausting, challenging and actually, on some days, it’s just the thought of a cold glass of wine at 7pm that gets us through the day. Yes kids do grow up fast, but new mums are allowed to struggle as they get to grips with this new reality. It’s hard to cherish every moment when it’s so bloody hard.

If you’re a mum, what kind of things did people say to you, as a new mum, that made you want to poke them in the eye?

Photography: Caroline Gue at CP Photography

Kilde: netmumsblog.com 

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Valentines date-outfits til strutmaver og yummy mødre

Valentine’s Day er altid d. 14. februar – og i år ligger det en fredag i vinterferien. Hvad er mere oplagt til en skøn, romantisk date night med dem, du holder allermest af – din kæreste, mand, partner og din baby.

Jeg har samlet mine bedste bud på skønne date-outfits til strutmaven og til den nybagte mor. Udgangspunktet for strutmaven er den flatterende kjole fra Isabella Oliver, der fremhæver dine flotte former, samtidig med at draperingerne camouflerer de ammedepoter, du er igang med at opbygge. Gisla-tasken i ægte læder har plads til alle dine ting, uden at blive for voldsom – den fremstår mest af alt som en lækker taske frem for en pusletaske. Til den nybagte mor er den bløde jerseykjole fra Ganni smuk; den er let at amme i med vandfaldsudskæringen, og samtidig falder stoffet fint henover kroppen uden at sidde for tæt og afslørende. Til en date med baby, der forhåbentlig sover trygt i barnevognen, er der brug for lidt mere udstyr, og den rummelige pusletaske fra Bellybutton er den ultimative luksus med utallige praktiske rum indeni og et stilrent og smukt look udenpå.

valentine collage_strutmave

Tørklæde fra Ganni 149,50 DKK 299 DKK // Kjole fra Isabella Oliver 664,30 DKK 949,00 DKK // Prikket ammebh fra Boob 369 DKK // Prikkede ventetrusser fra Boob 199 DKK // Armbånd fra Helena Rohner fra 199 DKK // Belly Oil fra Strut – no nonsence skincare 179 DKK // Tights fra Mamalicious 199,95 DKK // KYS-læbepomade fra Vølve 69 DKK // Gisla-læderpusletaske fra ByStroom 699 DKK

valentine mor

Jerseykjole fra Ganni 699 DKK (fås i flere farver) // Øreringe fra Helena Rohner fra 449 DKK // KYS-læbepomade fra Vølve 69 DKK // Himmel og Hav-scrub fra Vølve 169 DKK // Formstøbt ammebh fra Anita 439 DKK // Sexede og ultrabehagelige trusser fra Hanky Panky 104,30 DKK 149 DKK // Luksuspusletaske i smørblødt læder fra Bellybutton 1899 DKK

Glædelig Valentine’s Date!

Psst! Hvis din kæreste glemmer at arrangere noget romantik for dig, så kom forbi Strut på Fælledvej – vi vil nemlig gerne forkæle alle mødre (kommende som nybagte) og byder på hjerteformede chokolader hele dagen d. 14.2. Hvis du handler på strutshop.dk får du naturligvis også chokolade med i pakken.

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